How Can Dolphins Help Abuse Survivors Understand Prayer and Trust?

Do you sometimes struggle with trust issues like me? Abuse survivors often grow up expecting others to hurt us so we have trouble developing trust, or we hand over our trust prematurely to people who don’t earn or deserve it. Early in my recovery, it was hard to trust God. More recently, I have trusted … Continue reading How Can Dolphins Help Abuse Survivors Understand Prayer and Trust?

Coming to terms with the concept of forgiveness in relation to sexual abuse.

What if the Improbable Was Somehow Possible?

Many of us think of sexual abuse as an unpardonable sin. Its effects are so far-reaching. We have been told repeatedly that abusers can’t change, and recovery means acknowledging that fact while no longer permitting what happened to control us. We hold on to the hope that change is possible for us, but we believe … Continue reading What if the Improbable Was Somehow Possible?

How Knowing God as “Father” Informs My Understanding of Prayer

Father Knows Best was a popular television show when I was a child. It was about the Anderson family whose dad offered sage advice whenever one of his children encountered a problem. The image of a caring father who acts in the best interest of his children is an anomaly for victims of sexual abuse … Continue reading How Knowing God as “Father” Informs My Understanding of Prayer

What If Hiding Is No Longer Necessary?

Sexual abuse victims find many reasons to hide:  shame, fear, feelings of inadequacy, etc.  Over time, hiding can become a way of life. But, what if the things you believe about yourself are not true and the way you see yourself is inaccurate? What might your life become if hiding were no longer necessary? The … Continue reading What If Hiding Is No Longer Necessary?